My name is Jewlia Miller. It’s always been a passion of mine to help others feel as beautiful as they truly are. SO I became a licensed cosmetologist, I’ve been doing hair and makeup for the last 3 1/2 years! I work at the facemaker in Huntsville TX. Makeup is my first love! I’m here to share some helpful tips with everyone!
Jewlia will be contributing to Beauty Life Coach and she will also be one of G.L.A.M. Girls Night Out guest speakers!
TIPS1. First things first, you need to moisturize your skin. Even if you have oily skin you need to Moisturized. For oily skin people they normally stay away from moisturizing their skin because they already have oily skin but your skin will overproduce oil if you’re not giving it the moisture that it needs.Ponds is my go to Moisturizer you can get it at any drugstore.
When I first started doing make up I had no clue that I needed to moisturize and prime
My face before putting on foundation. But the moisturizer helps moisturize your skin and the primer helps to create a barrier between your skin and the foundation so it doesn’t seep into fine lines and pores in your face also protecting your skin from the foundation as well as helps your foundation last throughout the day.
2. Now let’s talk about the foundation for your skin type. If you have oily skin and you get a foundation for dry skin your face is going to look more oily. And if you have dry skin and you get a oily foundation it’s going to make your skin look dry, so it’s very important to know which skin type you have and which foundation accommodates for that skin type.
Sitting here, thanking God for our beautiful life! Overwhelmed by the fact that this time last year, I️ was pregnant and we were still fostering to adopt our son!! Thank God for new seasons, grace, perseverance and uncontained peace and joy!!! So amazed at all God has given us, and all the life lessons we have learned in the past two years! Now we are a family of 4 👉 traveling to Disney!!!
I just want encourage you that dreams do come true! Always remember that God wants exceed your expectation and loves you more than you could ever imagine!
Also I️ couldn’t wait to show off my gorgeous new @danielwellington Classic Petite 28mm watch!
Tiffany Martin of “The Sophisticated Mommy” is a small-town Texan wife, momma of two, counselor, blogger, and friend! She is a passionate dreamer whose desire is to help mom’s around the world recognize their full potential as well as their worth. While she has come to discover that being a mom is one of the most rewarding jobs on the planet, she has also come to realize the challenges that it can present, so providing inspiration to fellow mom’s is also something Tiffany strives to do daily.
Aside from learning about motherhood through the personal experiences of being a mom – Tiffany has received formal training in familial relationships, understanding people, communication and how to instill hope in others by earning her Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology and her Master of Arts in Counseling from Sam Houston State University. She’s also worked in education for the past nine years as a school counselor, career counselor, teacher, and coach which has offered her several opportunities to sharpen her skills of effectively engaging with moms, their children, and other key individuals in her community.
Helping others is at the core of her being and her hope is to achieve this goal by means of travel so that she can connect with more momma’s around the world. Excellence, determination, and motivation are driving factors in her pursuit. In her spare time, which is normally during nap time, you will most likely find her with her head in a hard-back book soaking up knowledge and information, while wearing a vest and sipping on some hot tea.
G.L.A.M. = Gather. Laugh. take Action. be Motivated.
This event is the perfect way to kick off the Christmas season, while you recover and recuperate from Thanksgiving! We made this event, just for you!
This G.L.A.M. Event is for women entrepreneurs, moms, boss babes, bloggers, and business owners to gather and rally together to empower each other to continue moving forward. Not allowing the stress of the world and responsibilities to overtake them or steal their joy.
At the Exclusive VIP G.L.A.M. Girls Night Out launch party we will be introducing our mission, passion, and purpose as well as introducing the speakers, vendors, and entertainment to the community for the big two day event that is happening in March, 2018.
We are also giving away 40 fabulous swag bags worth more than $300 worth of product and coupons, amazing giveaways, and prizes and more.
There will be live music, light bite, a coffee bar, juice bar, dessert, and a cake to celebrate the LAUNCH into a new Season for our company and the community.
We will also be launching an amazing blog, and also having a book signing from 6:00 – 7:00.
6:00 p.m. – 7:00 p.m.
Come shop and take advantage of an once in a lifetime opportunity of 30% off all of Carrie Ann clothing. Enjoying the live entetrainment, take selfies at the photobooth, get professional pictures taken, indulge in the tasty light bites, dessert, coffee bar and juice bar. Plus YOU will have ample time to connect with the exclusive speakers, sponsors and influential women in the community.
7:00 p.m. – 7:20 p.m.
The Event will official begin, then I will introduce myself and GLAM girls Night Out, share about amazing giveaways, collabs, bloggers, and business owners.
Interview Style Intros With the Speakers and Sponsors
Intro Carrie Ann
Break : GIVEAWAY!
Quick dance party
8:10 – 8:20
Break : GIVEAWAY!
Quick Dance Party
Charity Market Days
Nycia – signing books
Thanking everyone for coming
9:00 p.m. – 9:45 p.m.
Enjoy the VIP EXCLUSIVE discounted price of 30% off Carrie Ann’s Clothing!
Beauties, we would love to have you and your girlfriends there for an amazing, unforgettable Night of inspiration, laughing, being motivated and empowered! All while shopping and spending time with them your favorite people!!
Tell me about yourself, I can’t wait for the audience to get to know you!
Hey there! My name is Charity, aka Get It GirlBoss! I am married to my husband, Adam, for 14 years, and we have three beautiful daughters. Chloe is 8, Jenna is 3, and Kaylee (the Baby) is 2. We are new to Houston, Texas, moving from Las Vegas, NV last year. I’m a California girl, raised in the Bay Area, in San Jose, California. I have worked in retail most of my career, as a Store Manager for great companies, but ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of being my own BOSS. I knew I had leadership skills from a young age, that my kindergarten teacher noted on my report card that I was “bossy.” Being bossy was actually a very good thing, as I like to be in charge and lead people to achieve a bigger goal. I became an Independent Consultant for Rodan + Fields skincare brand, 2 years ago, and I love how having this “side hustle” has enriched my life in many ways. I’m proud to call myself a business owner and I absolutely love empowering and encouraging women entrepreneurs to be confident in being their own BOSS, and of course, have amazing skin and lashes too! I started my blog, Get It GirlBoss, last year, as a creative outlet to share fashion tips, skincare and beauty tips, and to share my entrepreneurial journey.
What do you like to do in your free time and what is one of your hobbies?
When I have free time, I love to spend my time with my girls. Life goes by incredibly fast, especially once you have children! I love taking them to the Houston Zoo, a beach trip to Galveston, and even to Target, because it’s always fun at Target! Spending time together as a family, making memories is incredibly important. I also love photography, I’m definitely a Mamarazzi, I have thousands of photos on my phone! I also love to paint. I paint for me mainly, I always find it therapeutic and relaxing.
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What are the three things that are most important to you?
My family, absolutely! They are the reason why I became an entrepreneur. I value authentic and nurturing relationships with friends. Kindness. We need more kindness and gentleness in our world, and it always begins with us.
Do you think it’s important to set goals and dream big dream?
Absolutely! I have always been a goal setter and dream a big dream! You have to have dreams that are so BIG, that you get a little embarrassed to share your dreams with small minded people. When you limit yourself, you become stagnant, complacent, COMFORTABLE! God has MASSIVE plans for us, and you have to be courageous to step into His plans with faith and be HUMBLE to receive his gift.
What is your vision for your future?
My big dream is to own my own party planning business and run it with my daughter, Chloe. She wants to go to college and earn a business degree, so she can work alongside me in our own business. I love that she is inspired to be her own Boss and I can’t wait to work with her! I also envision going on trips around the world with my family.
When did you know you were called to do this?
I knew in my heart, that I wanted to be a business owner. I followed the traditional path to success – go to college, earn a degree, find a job with a great company, get married, have kids, have a long career, to eventually retire. I was very comfortable being a General Manager for 7 years, living in Las Vegas, with a great reputation and I had just gave birth to my last child in August 2015.
Growing up, I was the sun loving California girl! I never used sunscreen, Baby Oil was my special tanning oil, and I would frequent tanning salons, I loved to be tan! My once cute freckles on my face, became large dark spots, and I developed melasma, from pregnancy hormones. I was desperate to lighten and brighten my skin, and start to truly take care of my skin, besides using just soap in the shower to clean my face! I started as a preferred customer of my friend, Colella, who introduced me to the Rodan + Fields skincare line. She suggested that I become a consultant, and really drive this business for myself, to bring in additional income that could eventually allow me to stay at home full time with my girls. Her husband and I had worked together, and she told me that he always knew how strong I was in running that business and that I was such a “Girl Boss”. I saw this as an opportunity to do just that! It would be an exit strategy out of the crazy and varied hours of working in retail, and I was excited to help others do the same.
I wanted my husband’s input on becoming a consultant, and he quickly shut me down! He was extremely skeptical of network marketing companies, as his Mother had started and failed many times with many different companies. He was not on board with me starting a business. And, I felt defeated.
The days that followed, I could not stop thinking about RF. I had this intense fire in my gut that said, “Do this. You need to do this. You are more than capable. You could truly excel at this. Trust me. Trust me. Trust ME.”
A couple of weeks later, in late October, my husband’s company that he had worked for over 6 years, held a conference call for all the employees. The call was to inform them that the owner of the company was selling his company to a larger firm, and that everyone would need to reapply for their jobs, and that there may not be a position for them and that bases may close. It was the worst news to receive right before the Holidays. Adam came home, incredibly worried. As I held our 3 month baby in my lap, and our oldest two played, I watched my husband crumble in despair. My own thoughts ran through my mind “How would we live off of one income? My income? It’s not enough to pay for rent, utilities, car payments, diapers, food, Chloe’s private school. We had some emergency savings, but it would cover maybe 3 months of bills. I still had Kaylee’s hospital bills to pay off. What are we going to do??
My husband had done an oversees contract to Iraq before our girls were born. He said that he would do that again. This crushed me. I didn’t want our daughters to not have their Daddy home every day, and only see him every 3 months. No. No. That was not an option. As he retreated to his office to start looking for other employment, the still voice whispered within me, “This is it. You know what you need to do.” I sent Colella a text, telling her what was happening. I told her that I needed to do this, and I was willing to work hard. I needed it for my family.
I still wanted my husband’s approval. I wanted his permission to start. A week later, I caught him in the garage as he was working on his car. I told him, “Babe, I want to do this business. I know you don’t like the business model, but it’s not what you think. I know that I’m capable of doing it, and I know I will be a whole lot better than your Mom!” He looked at me, and said, “If you can make a profit in your first three months, then I’ll buy your next kit.” It really doesn’t work that way, as I don’t need to purchase my inventory to sell, but I didn’t want to argue with him, I took that as his unofficial blessing and ran!
I needed to come up with a business name for my RF website, and wanted something that was unique to me. I knew that I’m a badass girl boss and wanted to empower other women to be the same. As I drove to work that morning, with the window rolled down, the early autumn weather in Vegas was just perfect, driving down Sunset blvd along McCarren airport, the Spring Mountains glowing in the sunrise light, I was bumping my favorite Girl Boss, Gwen Stefani in my car. The song was “Wind it UP” and the bridge has a catchy hook “Get it girl, get it get it girl. Get it girl, get it get it girl” Then it hit me! Get it Girl Boss. Yes! it was perfect. I prayed that it wasn’t taken!
The next day, was our wedding anniversary, and it was the night I officially became a Rodan and Fields Independent Consultant. And, it was the night that Get it Girl Boss was born. I felt excited and anxious, and overwhelmed. It was a big leap of faith in myself.
What were the defining moments in your life that helped you realize you’re calling? What steps did you take to make it to where you are today?
God works in marvelous ways. I worked really hard to launch my business, with the goal to help pay off and reduce our debt. The first few RF paydays were always what I exactly needed to pay off Kaylee’s hospital bills. I payed it off in 3 months, what would have taken my over 6 months if I had to carve it out of my regular salary. Then the paydays would go towards paying down my credit card debts, towards things that the girls needed, and to help start my blog and all the expenses that is needed to keep a blog going.
I have gained two incredible business partners that have joined me on this journey. Two women, who are Mothers and needed this business to enrich their families lives. I have clients that are loving their newfound confidence in their skin, I can go on about each one, it’s so inspiring! But, what I’m most pleased, is that I’m proving to myself that I’m stronger than I ever thought. This business, as in any business, has it’s ups and downs. But there are more high points than the low points, for sure.
This has given me the supplemental income that I needed that first year. Everything happens for a reason. My husband was able to secure an even better job in his industry, which brought us to Houston, TX. The base in Las Vegas eventually did close. Being an entrepreneur, in a new city, has opened up opportunities for personal and professional growth. I have joined the blogger community and have made new connections with like minded, and strong girl bosses!
Who is your greatest inspiration?
My greatest inspirations are my daughters, because I want to be a great role model for them. And, my first business partner, Sarah. Sarah and I have known each other since Kindergarten, and she and her husband had an incredibly journey, starting their family. After many rounds of IV treatments, they were blessed with triplets. Sarah had prayed and waited for her three miracles, and the thought of having to go back to work to provide an additional income to support a large family, and taking her children to daycare, was not what she wanted to do. She had reached out to me about becoming a consultant, so she could work her business in the small pockets of raising her then 18 month old babies, was what she looking for. I’m incredibly inspired by her tenacity, determination, and BOSSness of how she has grown her business! For someone that has never had sales experience, she has consistently been the top seller on our team, and she conducts her business with such grace and authenticity, it’s incredible! I’m so proud of her!
Who has influenced you the most and what is the greatest lesson you learned from them?
I have had many mentors in my life. The greatest lesson that they have taught me, was not to allow fear take over, and allow that to determine my choices. Be confident and listen to your intuition, and step forward with confidence and posture.
What does being a beauty queen mean to you?
Being a beauty queen means that you are strong, determined, brave and courageous despite feeling weak, timid and unsure of yourself. A Beauty Queen treats everyone with respect, kindness and gentleness, and doesn’t put up with drama!
What inspires you to live with passion every single day?
Passion has it’s ebbs and flows…one day you can wake up with such determination to rule the world, and then something happens, and your day gets turned upside down! Being an entrepreneur, you hear NO a lot! What keeps me going, is that ONE day, I will be living out my dream, being where I want, with who I want, and on my own time.
How did you use that passion to make your dreams come true?
I’m a visual person, so I have a vision “board” on my desktop and on my phone of what my dreams look like now. On my vision board, is photos of my family, the Eiffel Tower, because I promised Chloe I would take her there for her high school graduation trip; a photo of Disney World, so we can go there as a family; a Pearl White Lexus; and a photo of a woman with her arms spread high to the sky which represents freedom to me.
What is a quote or saying that you live by?
It’s my favorite verses from the Bible, Proverbs 3: 5-6 – “Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will keep your paths straight.”
Through the ups and downs of your life what is the greatest lesson that you have learned?
We just have gone through a major down in our life, as our house that we purchased in May, was devastated by flooding during Hurricane Harvey. We lost everything. Thankfully, we were not home while the waters were rising, as we had evacuated out early. Everything that my husband and I had owned, was destroyed. Photos from our wedding and the girls baby books are the main items that I’m very heartbroken to lose. The powerful lesson from this, was accepting and being HUMBLE. Being a BOSS and being used to being in charge of all the areas of my life, it was my friend, Colella, that told me that I needed to “let” people help me. I had to stop trying to do it all on my own, and allow God to help. And, boy, did HE! I’m still blown away by the kindness and generosity of people that have come to help us. Volunteers, from coworkers, friends, strangers, helping to clear out our home, bring supplies, send us money to cover hotel stays, buy new clothes, eat! Whatever we needed or thought we may not need, help came. Harvey took away our belongings, but gave us HOPE. And, we will be okay.
What advice would you give the beauty queens reading this interview about following their dreams?
Be Uncomfortable about being Comfortable. Change is SCARY, but being complacent and putting limitations on yourself is scarier. It’s good to have dreams, but you also need to take action to live your dreams. Don’t let the Haters get to you…people will always have an opinion, and that is fine, but their opinion won’t pay your bills! Show them kindness, some grace, and prove them WRONG! Get it Girl Boss
Everyone!! I’m so honored and excited to feature the owner and creator of Honey’s Coffee & Biscuits, the gorgeous visionary Lindy Hamm! When you walk into this dream coffee shop, you instantly feel like you have found a precious jewel……the jackpot…..a dream destination. A unique spot that you want to bring your friends to and tell your co-workers about, a place that makes you feel special, welcomed, full of joy and peace. Not only is the decor absolutely stunning, but the people are even more beautiful from the inside out.
The few times I’ve had the privilege of spending time in the coffee shop, I have taken time to observe the Lindy Hamm with her new customers, the regulars, the food guy, the florist, her mom, and her friends….. and ladies, everyone leaves feeling rejuvenated. Not only from DREAM coffee, but from the atmosphere of peace that Honey’s Coffee & Biscuits offers.
My favorite so far is the S’more coffee, I absolutely love it!!
I had the privilege of interviewing Lindy to showcase her coffee shop, heart for people, family advice and how she is rocking her new LIFE as a BOSS BABE!! You will be intrigued, enlightened, and empowered by our interview. I was planning on transcribing the entire interview, but I felt like the words would not express the emotion that was portrayed throughout the interview. Therefore, a part of this interview is audio, so if you’re driving your car, cleaning your house, working out, or doing homework, you can listen to this, anytime…..anywhere!!
READY, SET, LETS GO!
Tell me about yourself, I can’t wait for the audience to get to know you!
I am Lindy Ham, I was Lindy Brown and I went to the school to play softball at St. Edwards University in Austin. Then I decided I wanted to be a Coach and that’s what I thought I would do for the rest of my life. To coach softball and teach high school students.
When did you decide to transition and open your coffee shop?
This is so funny, my husband and I had just talked about how neither one of us ever wanted to be a boss….I wanted to stay home with our kids and be a mom, I felt like I was good at that. However, as my sons got older, they didn’t want to play with me any longer, so I found myself Pinteresting and
DIY to death and organized to the max. I literally had re-organized our e tire house and then I know something has to change.
I didn’t know what to do with myself. I worked at a coffee shop in college and that was always my love, because I knew that no matter how bad your day was, coming to a coffee shop, always seemed to make it better. Also, COFFEE can always be made better, or bigger if you know you really screwed up, or even put on the house.
What do you like to do in your free time and what is your hobby? In my free time, honestly I am cleaning. haha! I am a neat freak and as a mom of 3 boys who live a fast paced life, I cant help it…I need organization and I like my house to look nice. You never know when company will drop in. I like to be prepared. I would like to say my “hobby” is working out. Again, not alot of time for just me, so when I do get it (and I am not cleaning) I like to make sure I focus on my health.
What are the three most important things to you? God first and foremost. My life and home can not function without God first. Family would for sure be second. I live for my boys! I got married young and had kids right off the bat. My husband is an amazing father too, everything we do in life is for our kids. Plus, we are both close to our families and have a blast living life with them! Third would be health. I never thought I would say that until I became a mom. I really realized how important being healthy was when I had kids. Me being the best version of myself helps me be a better mom, wife, and person!
Do you think that it is important to set goals and dream big dreams? I definitely think it SUPER important to set goals and dream big! I always thought I would get married, become a mom and that’s it! When that actually happened, there was still something missing inside of me. Not that it wasn’t enough, I just needed to still have a sense of “Jamie” as well. That’s when I decided to pursue working from home. In the 3 years I’ve been doing this, I’ve learned if your dreams aren’t scaring you, you aren’t dreaming big enough! You only get ONE life…make the most of it!
What is your vision for the future? My vision for my future would be freedom! I would love to retire my husband at a young age. I would love to travel with our boys. I would love to be able to give financially to those in need. I also have a big heart for adoption. God willing, I would LOVE to be able to do that one day!
When did you know you were called to make a change and work from home? I don’t think I ever really “knew” when I was called to work from home, or own my own business. It just sort of happened! We were dead broke, my husband worked WAY too much and we just never could get ahead in life. I KNEW there was something more, I just didn’t know what. Plexus fell into my lap because I needed some major help with my health. It honestly snowballed into what it is today. We have been incredibly blessed by this opportunity. If you would have told me 3 years ago I’d be working from home and actually being successful at it, I would have laughed! Sometimes the answers to our prayers are right in front of our face.
What were the defining moments in your life that helped you realize your calling? What steps did you take to make it to where you are today? I remember my husband just being so worn out from working. He never complained about it, but I knew he was tired. I didn’t know what on earth I could do to help either! I had always worked but we decided when we had kids, I would stay at home. That just wasn’t cutting it anymore. I had heard of people being able to make money in MLMs, I had NO clue what I wanted to do though. I knew if I “sold” something, I would have to be passionate about it. When I tried Plexus and saw how much it was changing my health, I decided “ok, maybe I could sell this”. I talked about it with a few friends and before I knew it, that month I paid all our bills with MY check. I was hooked from there! I had found something that would not only change people’s lives, but I knew at that moment it would change ours…and it has!
Who is your greatest inspiration? My greatest inspiration would be Mary, mother of Jesus. She’s the one person if I could meet, I would! The person she was, what she had to go through, it just touches me how she did it all! Maybe being a mom of all boys, it pulls my heart strings. I can’t imagine what she went through seeing her son like that. She just seemed like a kindest person you could imagine. I would give anything to spend 15 minutes with her asking her questions.
Who has influenced you the most? Honestly, my kids have influenced me the most! My oldest had cancer when he was a baby. To see the boy he has become today, you just have to know that there is a God after that! My middle son is the kindest, most patient person I know. He totally has a servants heart and teaches me new things every day. My youngest is the most wild and free spirited person that I’ve ever met. He’s 2 years old and can make me laugh harder then anyone else!
Being a mom to them has been my greatest accomplishment by far!
What does being a Beauty Queen mean to you? Being a “beauty queen” to me, means… learning to forgive when there’s been no apology. Laughing at yourself. Loving the skin you are in. Believing in something so hard you can’t help but go after it. And most of all, loving others more then yourself, even when you don’t feel like it sometimes.
What gives you passion to work your amazing Plexus business every day? My family definitely is my inspiration. Everything I do is for them! Also my team. I have an AMAZING team of people who love helping others. I literally communicate with them every day and they are the reason I am where I am today in my business. Seriously, they blow my mind. I love them all!
How did you use that passion to make your dreams come true? I knew I needed more then what we had. Not that it was BAD, I just wanted MORE for them. I love helping people and I love health, God did the rest! I get to stay at home with my babies all while helping others with their health and finances. It’s been a HUGE blessing!
What is a quote or saying that you live by? “If you are blessed, be a blessing”. A huge part of what I do is in hopes to be able to bless others like I have been blessed
Through the ups and downs of your life what is the greatest lesson that you have learned? The greatest lesson I’ve learned so far in life is to judge no one and love everyone. God didn’t put me here to judge others, but He did put me here to show the world His love. Even though I fail at that at times, it’s something I strive to do every day.
What advice would you give the beauty queens reading this interview about following their dreams? I’m not sure if I’m good at giving advice haha… but I would say if you’re not following your dreams then your dreams aren’t big enough. When you find something you’re passionate about, you GO FOR IT! You can’t help it. And maybe you aren’t sure what that is yet, I’ve totally been there. You need to focus on your “why” and find a good group or person who will support you no matter what. And no matter what someone says, if you know what you’re called to do…DONT STOP! Dream big, and don’t hold back. Your only regret will be not going for it.
Tell me about yourself. I am a grateful, young at heart, wife, mother, Christian and doctor that treats patients with cancer.
What do you do in your free time? Go on early morning walks or bike rides, surf the internet, cook for friends and family, catch up with long distance friends on the phone or shop alone. After a long day, I prefer a sappy Hallmark movie with my husband with popcorn.
What are the 3 most important things to you?
1. A healthy, loving family life
2. To stay relevant to make a positive impact in society and culture as a person of in profession and of faith through service and excellence.
3. Maintain a healthy lifestyle through diet, exercise, rest and relationships.
Do you think it’s important to set goals and dream big dreams? Absolutely. Your secret of success is found in your daily routine. I set goals daily and l love lists. If you don’t have a dream or goals you have no direction. You must be moving forward towards daily, monthly and yearly goals. Proverbs 29:18- “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
What is your current vision for your future? To stay healthy, active and serve my community as I work in my career as an oncologist and center medical director at MD Anderson in The Woodlands, Texas as we expand our programs in our community. I also hope to continue to strengthen our family, grow in my faith and to continue to learn new skills in leadership and service.
When did you know you were called to be a doctor? I was 17 years old, sitting in a college course listening to an anatomy lecture given by a guest speaker who was a practicing physician radiologist who pointed out structures on x-rays of the human body. I said, “I don’t want to do this, I want to do that!” It was a life changing moment.
What were the defining moments in your life that helped you realize your calling as a doctor? There were many. I had several doctors pull me aside while I worked as a nuclear medicine technologist and told me I was wasting my God given talent, needed to quit my job and go to medical school.
Another time was a few weeks before graduation with my bachelor’s degree in hospital administration, I realized I really did not want to be an administrator. I really still had the same desire I had when I was 17. I still wanted to be a doctor.
How did you decide to go into oncology? It was a last moment decision to change my specialty. I was planning to be a radiologist, but several physicians met with me and encouraged me to reconsider working in an area with more direct patient contact. I loved radiology and had worked with oncology patients previously as a nuclear medicine technologist. The oncology patients were my favorite patients. I also marveled at the special relationships I observed of the oncology patients and their oncologists. I did my rotation through radiation oncology and was familiar with many aspects of the work with physics, radiobiology, equipment and imaging in general. There were also two superb oncologists that influenced me and helped solidify my decision.
What steps did you take to make it where you are today? It was a very long road with many obstacles to reach my goals. After graduating with a bachelor’s degree, I immediately went back to school for another two years to take premed classes. I got involved in study groups and later took the MCAT’s (medical college admission test). After obtaining reference letters and meeting with the dean of the medical school admissions, I then applied to medical schools, interviewed and made my decision for my training. During the last year of medical school I chose my specialty and began applying to programs throughout the county. I was invited to interview at several residencies. In March of my final year of medical school, on “Match Day”, I learned where I would do our my residency. After medical school I did a year internship. During late spring of my internship year we traveled to Houston for a weekend, bought a home and began to prepare for our move in June. I began my residency in July 1998 and studied another four years at the University of Texas, MD Anderson Cancer Center. I was invited to join the faculty and have been on staff since 2002. From the time I went back to school until I graduated from my residency the total time commitment was 12 years of intense study.
Who is your greatest inspiration? Joseph in book of Genesis. He was a good person who suffered a lot injustice, was separated from his parent, had tremendous family conflict, but kept a good attitude and worked with excellence no matter how difficult the task. His excellent spirit paid off and eventually he became second in command of Egypt. He even saved the brothers who betrayed him as well as an entire nation. He said famously, “ what you meant for evil God used for good “(Genesis 50:20). His life speaks to me of patience, excellence, justice and endurance.
Who influenced you the most? No one person. I had many influences along the way.
Perhaps the biggest influencers are almost always our parents- for good or bad. And I have to say this is true of me.
A woman named Kathy I mention in a story in my book. She was the first professional working wife and mom to mentor me. She developed breast cancer and passed away. It would be years later that I would fully understand the impact she would have on my life and my ultimate career.
There were also several female physicians I met briefly along the way who would encourage me and give a vision of what was in my future as a doctor with children and time management.
Dr. Kevin McCann. I doubt I would have even taken the first steps to start the journey without his encouragement, support, guidance and mentorship.
My Pastors and my husband Chuck helped me to stay steady in times of great doubt, loneliness and discouragement.
My previous chairmen, Dr.’s James Cox, Tom Buchholz and Steve Hahn, who all demonstrated excellent leadership skills.
What is the greatest lessons you have learned from your parents?
1.Get an education. My parents had no education through no fault of their own. They set goals, worked long, hard and were “street smart.” They did well economically despite the obstacles they faced. Both parents regretted they did not have formal education and stressed it was important. My Dad was not thrilled about having daughters and stated he felt girls had little value in society. But at the end of my junior year in high school my Dad changed his mind and asked me to consider a college education. I am so glad he did. Having an education changed my life.
2. Don’t live with regret. My mother confided how she regretted she never fulfilled her dream to be a nurse who worked with newborns. Those conversations stayed in my mind in my twenties. I did not want to be in my 60’s and look back with all the regrets that she did. I remember being 30 and saying I have to try to be a doctor- if I fail, at least I could live with that.
3. How to be a better doctor. Two years into practice my mom developed an aggressive stage IV cancer and passed away very quickly. I became a caregiver and advocate for my mother. The lessons were invaluable and equipped me with a deeper understanding and compassion for my patients and their families.
What does being a beauty queen mean to you? Without sounding cliché, beauty is truly more than skin deep. It’s someone who radiates love, joy, peace and confidence.
Speaking of beauty- what do you use on your skin?
I have used Mary Kay moisturizer in the am and pm since I was 24 until about 4 years ago. Now I use Oil of Olay or Macadamia oil.
What inspires you to live with passion every day? We are only here on this planet for a short period of time. No one is guaranteed tomorrow. I want to do the most amount of good I can with the time I have. Money can’t buy happiness. Over the years I have met miserable, unfulfilled, wealthy people. I acknowledge wealth brings convenience and ease, but not lasting fulfilment. I want to love well, help the less fortunate, serve others, and make the world a better place. I believe one person can make a difference.
How did you use your passion to make your dreams come true? Passion is that “grit” that keeps you moving forward. It’s the perseverance you must have if your dreams will be realized. I counted the cost and knew it would be a long road. It was twelve years from beginning to end of my training. I lived in increments of 6-12 weeks, keep a calendar and checked off the time. I celebrated each victory along the way. I prayed that I would not just survive, but that I would thrive through the journey. I attended almost every event with my kids I could, even if it meant no sleep. We rarely missed a meal together, story time, prayer time except for call nights during my internship year. I prayed that I could be in the house of God at least one day a week and I was granted that.
What quotes or sayings do you live by? “Only one life twill soon be past, only what’s done for Christ will last.”-C.T.Studd
“Sometimes on your way to a dream, you get lost and find a better one.”- Lisa Hammon
“Never tell your 16 x 20 dream, to 3 x 5 people.”- Unknown.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. “-John 10:10
“Learning never exhausts the mind.”-Leonardo da Vinci
“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.” –Thomas Jefferson.
Through the ups and downs of your life what is the greatest lesson that you have learned?
God is a good father. His plan for us is so much better than ours. Forgive those who have hurt you and move on. Surrender your life to Him and invite Him to take you on His adventure- you won’t believe where it will take you- just hang on!
What was the worst advice someone gave you? “Forget about being a doctor. Your kind don’t do well in medical school. Stay home, have children, bake bread and just be glad you are married to a professional.”- Premed advisor, 1981
What is the best advice someone told you? “ Apply to the residency that you want to attend. Don’t listen to the naysayers. What’s the worst thing that can happen? They could say no. As the saying goes, “Shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” Dr. McCann.
What’s been a hard thing for you to do? Take care of myself. A few years ago I made a commitment to do what I tell my patients. To set healthy boundaries with my time. I now actively plan for rest, exercise and to eat a healthier diet. Doctors are notorious for keeping long hours, eating in 2 minutes and living a stressful, unhealthy lifestyle.
Have you done anything a bit unusual with your career?
1. I have co-published a book for breast cancer patients, “The Breast Cancer Journey- Stories of Hope with Action Items for Survival” Its available through Amazon and Westbow. Proceeds from the book support MD Anderson Cancer Research. Check it out.
2. I volunteer my time to co-facilitate a breast cancer support group called, “Breast Friends Woodlands”. We meet the second Wednesday of each month for the last 10 years in Montgomery county. I adore these amazing ladies!
What advice would you give the beauty queen reading this interview about following their dreams?
1. Pray for Divine guidance for your future.
2. Remember that any dream worth having will take a strong commitment and determination. Expect obstacles along the way. If it were easy, everyone would do it.
3. Get a mentor. Find someone doing what you want to do. Ask for their guidance or advice.
4. Learn to manage your time well and stay focused on your goals.
5. Let a few close friends you trust in on your plans for support.
6. It will cost you. Be prepared to let go of anything and anyone that drains your energy.
7. Work in teams whenever you can. Others can see what you can’t and together you can accomplish more.
8. Enjoy the journey. There are always treasures along the way if you look for them.
9. Keep a great attitude. You are fortunate to be working towards a dream. Not everyone is so lucky.
Pamela J. Schlembach, M.D. Professor, Radiation Oncology University of Texas, MD Anderson Cancer Center Center Medical Director, Woodlands.
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